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Monday 7 March 2016

come on ladies let's celebrate!

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international Women's Day (IWD), originally called International Working Women's Day, is celebrated on March 8 every year.[2] In different regions the focus of the celebrations ranges from general celebration of respect, appreciation, and love towards women to a celebration for women's economic, political, and social achievements. Started as a Socialist political event, the holiday blended the culture of many countries, primarily in Europe, especially those in the Soviet Bloc.[3] In some regions, the day lost its political flavor, and became simply an occasion for people to express their love for women in a way somewhat similar to a mixture of Mother's Day and Valentine's Day. In other regions, however, the political and human rights theme designated by the United Nations runs strong, and political and social awareness of the struggles of women worldwide are brought out and examined in a hopeful manner. Some people celebrate the day by wearing purple ribbonsThe earliest Women’s Day observance was held on February 28, 1909, in New York; it was organized by the Socialist Party of America in remembrance of the 1908 strike of the International Ladies' Garment Workers' Union.[4] There was no specific strike happening on March 8, despite later claimsTuesday, March 8 marks the 108th observance of International Women’s Day as we celebrate the achievements of inspiring women across the globe.

The roots of this festival of feminity date back to 1909 when across America women marched for better working conditions and voting rights on February 28. The event was known as National Women’s Day and was organized by the Socialist Party of America. International Women’s Day was born two years later in 1911 after German socialist Luise Zietz suggested a more global celebration at a Socialist International meeting in Copenhagen in 1910. The trailblazer’s idea was quickly seconded by well-known German socialist Clara Zetkin and the motion was passed by over 100 women in attendance at the meeting.

Two years later, International Women’s Day was celebrated for the first time in 1911 with countries including Austria, Denmark, Switzerland and Germany taking part.


Most countries have their own means of celebration, whether they be talks, concerts or marches. And in some countries, including Russia and Vietnam, March 8 is recognised as a public holiday.

This year, International Women’s Day will recognize the economic, political and social achievements of women in an abundance of different ways. In the U.S Harry Potter actress Emma Watson is among the public figures due to take part in the launch of HeForShe Arts Week which runs from March 8 to March 15 and aims to spotlight women’s rights across the globe through ballet, opera, concerts, museums, art exhibitions and theatre productions. A percentage of the profits will be donated  to UN Women.

Here are some of the worldwide celebrations planned around the world for International Women’s Day 2016:

United States

The United Nations will ring in International Women’s Day quite literally on Tuesday morning, as Lakshmi Puri, deputy executive director of UN Women, will ring the bell on the New York Stock Exchange at 9am.

Elsewhere, UN Goodwill Ambassador Emma Watson will be one of the distinguished speakers at a rally to launch HeForShe Arts Week. She joins the likes of New York First Lady, Chirlane McCray, to begin the week-long spotlight on women’s rights and gender equality.

United Kingdom

London’s Southbank Centre will play host to the Women of the World festival from March 8. The weeklong series of events include talks from comics such as Caitlin Moran, poetry readings, dance lessons and even a demonstration from the sword-wielding stars of Muslim Girls Fence.

India

Fully immersive experiences guided by female sherpas are the order of the day in Mumbai. SeekSherpa is honoring the knowledge of its local tour guides by hosting a series of events tied into International Women’s Day. These include an all-girl pub crawl and, for foodies, a bus tour of hidden culinary hotspots in Delhi.

Taiwan

Silicon Valley, eat your heart out. Taiwan hosts a Girls in Tech evening in Taipei on March 8, celebrating entrepreneurial women of the web. App developer Christiana Chen, founder of online supermarket OrangeNow, is among the speakers. Organizers will also announce their annual 40 Under 40 Women in Tech list.

Australia

In Melbourne, a concert featuring new works by local young composers is being planned by the University of Melbourne. All the proceeds from the event, “This Will Be Our Reply”, are to be donated to the Safe Steps Family Violence Response Centre.

Brisbane, meanwhile, will host an art auction and concert of its own. The event titled “Putting the Pieces Together” celebrates the artwork of 15 artists, who will be auctioning off their latest pieces, plus performances from four female musicians. The event will raise money for the Zig Zag Young Women's Resource Centre.

For more International Women’s Day events and activities in your part of the world
 

Saturday 5 March 2016

Unkindness Fitness: The Unkindness Diet

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Unkindness Fitness: Troubleshooting Muscle Gains

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Thursday 3 March 2016

broken heart

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 Here's to all the time you broke my heart leaft me curled up in my own pain made me believe there is so such thing as a fairy tale left me towards the end the end of my heart the end of my life the of love itself this what you have done to me...
A broken heart (also known as a heartbreak or heartache) is a common metaphor for the intense emotional—and sometimes physical—stress or pain one feels at experiencing great longing. The concept is cross-cultural; most often, though not exclusively, cited with reference to a desired or lost lover; and dates back at least 3,000 years

  Broken heart syndrome or

Takotsubo cardiomyopathy

 Takotsubo cardiomyopathy, also known as transient apical ballooning syndrome, apical ballooning cardiomyopathy, stress-induced cardiomyopathy, Gebrochenes-Herz-Syndrom, and stress cardiomyopathy is a type of non-ischemic cardiomyopathy in which there is a sudden temporary weakening of the muscular portion of the heart. Because this weakening can be triggered by emotional stress, such as the death of a loved one, a break-up, or constant anxiety, it is also known as broken-heart syndrome. Stress cardiomyopathy is a well-recognized cause of acute heart failure, lethal ventricular arrhythmias, and ventricular rupture.

from the girl who lives down the road.. 

“I wish i were a little girl again, because skinned knees are easier to fix than broken heart.”

– Julia Roberts

Tuesday 1 March 2016

Rape victim

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“I told him to stop. He thought I was joking. I froze.”
Kristina Erickson, Beloit College (Wisc.)

“I was like, ‘No, please stop.’ He was like, ‘No, you’ll like it.' ”
Female student, Queens University of Charlotte

“I don’t know why guys just think, ‘If I just do it, she’ll do it, too.’
Saalika Khan, Towson University (Md.)
“I woke up the next morning without any pants on, and without any recollection.

Female student, University of Pittsburgh

“Definitely there’s an awkwardness to saying no.”

Male student, Massachusetts Institute of Technology

“I had no intention of sleeping with this woman. I kept telling her.”

Daniel Episcope, University of the Pacific

“Thinking people would have found a way to stop it if they didn’t want it is victim-blaming, and it is as ridiculous as telling a victim of a robbery that they would have stopped a robbery if they really didn’t want it to happen.”

Female student, Northern Illinois University

 The student at Northern Illinois University had an appointment in Chicago and needed a ride. So she arranged to stay that night in April 2013 with a friend who could drive her into the city the next morning.
“She picked me up on campus and took me back to her place after my classes,” the student, now 23, recalled. “The night was uneventful, but when it was later, and I was getting ready to sleep, she started to kiss me. I froze and didn’t reciprocate.”
She said she didn’t know what to do.
“She told me not to be such a prude and said that she knew I wanted it and kept on kissing,” she said. “I turned my head away but she didn’t stop. She started touching me other places. I still didn’t say anything. After a bit she stopped and called me a prude.”
The next day, the student, who is a lesbian, told her then-romantic partner what had happened.
“All she said was, ‘If you didn’t want it to happen, you would have found a way to stop it.’ . . . I didn’t talk about it at all to anyone over summer. I cried a lot and felt dirty, and just gross. I felt like it was my fault and like I was broken. I felt like I had been unfaithful to my partner because I didn’t stop it.”
During the next school year, the student said her grades plunged, and she had a hard time focusing on classes.
“I had to take two incompletes in the fall and it just felt like I was crying all the time. Everything felt like a blur and I felt dirty, small and numb,” she said. “I felt like a zombie.”
The student did not report the incident.
“The person that did it never had repercussions for her actions,” she said. In the past year, her grades have improved and she is starting to heal. She said she wants to tell her story because too often sexual assault within the LGBT community goes unnoticed.
“For me, it almost felt like there was an extra additional component of shame,” she said. “Logically, I know it is not my fault. I know what happened was sexual assault, but I still do struggle with feelings of guilt and being dirty. I want people to know that the culture and beliefs we have about sexual assault in this country are not healthy. Thinking people would have found a way to stop it if they didn’t want it is victim-blaming, and it is as ridiculous as telling a victim of a robbery that they would have stopped a robbery if they really didn’t want it to happen.”


Female student, University of Michigan

She was flirting with a guy at a fraternity party, getting drunk on cheap vodka, when he invited her upstairs to his room. They started making out. The 19-year-old student at the University of Michigan remembers that much.
“I consented to that, but I don’t remember consenting to anything else,” she said. Her perceptions got “blurrier and blurrier.” She blacked out and woke up later on a couch downstairs. The woman didn’t know exactly what had happened, but suspected things had gone way too far.
“I was kind of freaking out,” she recalled.
Another man at the fraternity, whom she considered a friend, relayed to her a couple days later what he had heard: That the guy said he had sex with her. This friend said the woman’s judgment about what happened was wrong: “There’s a difference between having drunk, regrettable sex and being raped,” she remembers him telling her.
The woman said they are no longer friends. She decided not to report the incident to authorities, in part because she didn’t know how intoxicated her attacker had been that night.
“I didn’t want to start an entire thing,” she said. “I didn’t want that whole frat to have a backlash against me.”
Now, the woman said, she is leery of fraternity parties, excessive drinking and “the whole hookup scene.” She is a women’s studies major, and she wants to get active in sexual assault prevention. “I’m a big advocate for ending this.”
The woman said the university should do more than teach bystanders to intervene in risky situations. “The people who are committing sexual assault are the people on this campus,” she said, adding that they need a clear message: “Don’t assault people.”
“I also feel like there should be harsher punishment,” she said. “I think these boys think they can do it and nothing will happen to them.”


Those were a few survivor story what about the people who don't survive .. beware of your surrounding and take care of your loved ones because you never know who the wolf is.. 

campus rape

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U.S. Department of Justice, Office of Justice Programs, National Institute of Justice. (2005). Sexual Assault on Campus: What Colleges and Universities Are Doing About It.
In 1999, Congress asked the National Institute of Justice to study school compliance with Federal laws requiring schools to disclose their security procedures, report crime data, and ensure victims’ rights. The resulting research report provides a comprehensive benchmark of sexual assault policy on the Nation’s campuses. This report presents key findings from the research.

Fisher, B.S., Cullen, F.T., & Turner, M.G. (2000). The Sexual Victimization of College Women. National Institute of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics.
Findings from this report include:
  • It is estimated that the percentage of completed or attempted rape victimization among women in higher educational institutions may be between 20% and 25% over the course of a college career.
  • Among college women, 9 in 10 victims of rape and sexual assault knew their offender.
  • Almost 12.8% of completed rapes, 35% of attempted rapes, and 22.9% of threatened rapes happened during a date.
  • 2.8% experienced either a completed rape (1.7%) or an attempted rape (1.1%) during the six-month period in which the study was conducted.  Of victims, 22.8% were victims of multiple rapes. If this data is calculated for a calendar year period, nearly 5% of college women are victimized during any given calendar year.
  • It is estimated that for every 1,000 women attending a college or university, there are 35 incidents of rape each academic year.
  • Off-campus sexual victimization is much more common among college women than on-campus victimization.  Of victims of completed rape 33.7% were victimized on campus and 66.3% off campus.
  • Less than 5% of completed or attempted rapes against college women were reported to law enforcement.  However, in 2/3rds of the incidents the victim did tell another person, usually a friend, not family or school officials.
Krebs, C.P., Lindquist, C.H., Warner, T.D., Fisher, B.S., & Martin, S.L. (2007). The Campus Sexual Assault (CSA) Study. National Institute of Justice.
 Findings from this report include:
  • Many women (88%) have never consumed a drink left unattended or consumed a drink given to them by a stranger (76%).
  • One-quarter of the sample (25%) reported consuming alcohol or drugs before sex at least once a month, and slightly fewer (23%) were drunk or high during sex at least once a month.
  • Eighteen percent experienced an attempted (13%) and/or completed (13%) sexual assault since entering college.
  • Among the total sample, 5% experienced a completed physically forced sexual assault, but a much higher percentage (11%) experienced a completed incapacitated sexual assault.
  • Sexual assaults were most likely to occur in September, October and November, on Friday or Saturday nights, and between the hours of midnight and 6:00 a.m.
  • Most victims of physically forced or incapacitated sexual assault were assaulted by someone they knew (79% and 88%).
  • Freshmen and sophomores are at greater risk for victimization than juniors and seniors.
Mohler-Kuo, M., Dowdall, G., Koss, M., & Wechsler, H. (2004). Correlates of Rape While Intoxicated in a National Sample of College Women. Journal of Studies on Alcohol, 65, 37-45.

Findings from this report include:
  • In one study, one in 20 (4.7%) women reported being raped in college since the beginning of the year – a period of approximately 7 months – and nearly three quarters of those rapes (72%) happened with the victims were so intoxicated they were unable to consent or refuse.
  • One study found that students living in sorority houses (3 times at risk) and on-campus dormitories (1.4 times at risk) were more likely to be raped than students living off-campus.
  • Women from colleges with medium and high binge-drinking rates had more than a 1.5-fold increased chance of being raped while intoxicated than those from schools with low binge-drinking rates.
  • Women who had practiced binge-drinking in high school had an increased likelihood of rape while intoxicated.

Jane's little bio,

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Chapter 4

It's after midnight Janet wearing a black velvet evening gown is sitting outside of her house with tears slowing falling from her eyes all she is seeing is the sky is of it's darkest color with a dim light of a crescent shaped moon  is falling on the ground, ice cold water can be felt from miles away as the sea comes on shore and goes back by watching it come back and fort Janet can't help but to fall back down her memory lane with a heart ache...
she remember just how she was abused just how every inch of her body just wanted to give up but still she survived, the moment when she nearly killed herself  and the time when she left  her only child abandoned at the doorstep of a stranger .....
The Night passes and the sun is rising yet she still hasn't gotten inside she can feel the fresh air brushing by her cheeks she just sits there frozen ..
  Alex comes from behind giving her a pat on the back she come front and settles down besides her saying with bright morning smile "Good Morning Ms. Davis.. I can bet a 100 you didn't sleep last night .."
Janet just now realizing it's morning comes to her senses ans says bewildered " huh?.. what?.."
Alex: it's 9am in the morning our meeting was supposed to started about an hour ago  i came to your house and rang the bell even knock but no one there just leaving i saw you sitting here so i came along i hope you don't mind i mean if you are busy i can leave ..
Janet: No sweetheart it's ok you don't have to leave stay just let me get my coffee.
Alex surprise to hear Janet call her sweet heart starts taking out a thermos and a disposable cup  from her back pack she says, " you can drink from mine if you want to?"
Janet smiles and says, " sure.. lets continued from where we left yesterday.."
After a few days i told my parents what happened but they didn't believe it they thought i was lying  while Janice said i was the one fooling around with boys while she told me not to . Nobody believed me so i sat quite ..
1 year later (June 1998)
I was found sleeping by a police officer  who himself seem quite old in Sternberg Park  i had a back pack with me and i looked as if i hadn't slept for days when the officer asked me where i was from, who i was and why i was sleeping here i was scared   to see him so close to me i  had nothing but to say that i had no where to go and my name is Janet .. Janet Davis .. he asked me how old i was ?.. i told him i was 17 and begged him to let me stay here and not to take me to the station but he took me any way, on the way to the station  i was afraid that he might take me some where else or do some thing like Victor but i didn't let him know that i was afraid, he then wrote all the details about me and asked the man behind the desk to check if there was a missing person report filed that matched with the description  he had given but there was none to be found it was middle of the night and his shift was almost over he looked at me and sighed then asked me if there was some one he could contact for me only one name came to my mind Jake but i didn't even know if his parents would let me stay if they knew what happened to me so i nod my head saying no. he then told me to get up and to come with him but i refused i didn't want him to hurt me as well he then sat down besides me and told me with a very polite tone Look Janet  i have  2 little daughters of my own at my home i won't do any harm but if you stay here all alone i don't know what would happen you are a pretty girl you should not be staying alone like this so come with me please.. i don't know how he knew i was scared but when i looked around the station and saw weird looking guys all staring at me i got up with me head down and said ok and went home with him.