SoManyThingz

 Here's to all the time you broke my heart leaft me curled up in my own pain made me believe there is so such thing as a fairy tale left me towards the end the end of my heart the end of my life the of love itself this what you have done to me...
A broken heart (also known as a heartbreak or heartache) is a common metaphor for the intense emotional—and sometimes physical—stress or pain one feels at experiencing great longing. The concept is cross-cultural; most often, though not exclusively, cited with reference to a desired or lost lover; and dates back at least 3,000 years

  Broken heart syndrome or

Takotsubo cardiomyopathy

 Takotsubo cardiomyopathy, also known as transient apical ballooning syndrome, apical ballooning cardiomyopathy, stress-induced cardiomyopathy, Gebrochenes-Herz-Syndrom, and stress cardiomyopathy is a type of non-ischemic cardiomyopathy in which there is a sudden temporary weakening of the muscular portion of the heart. Because this weakening can be triggered by emotional stress, such as the death of a loved one, a break-up, or constant anxiety, it is also known as broken-heart syndrome. Stress cardiomyopathy is a well-recognized cause of acute heart failure, lethal ventricular arrhythmias, and ventricular rupture.

from the girl who lives down the road.. 

“I wish i were a little girl again, because skinned knees are easier to fix than broken heart.”

“She picked me up on campus and took me back to her place after my classes,” the student, now 23, recalled. “The night was uneventful, but when it was later, and I was getting ready to sleep, she started to kiss me. I froze and didn’t reciprocate.”
She said she didn’t know what to do.
“She told me not to be such a prude and said that she knew I wanted it and kept on kissing,” she said. “I turned my head away but she didn’t stop. She started touching me other places. I still didn’t say anything. After a bit she stopped and called me a prude.”
The next day, the student, who is a lesbian, told her then-romantic partner what had happened.
“All she said was, ‘If you didn’t want it to happen, you would have found a way to stop it.’ . . . I didn’t talk about it at all to anyone over summer. I cried a lot and felt dirty, and just gross. I felt like it was my fault and like I was broken. I felt like I had been unfaithful to my partner because I didn’t stop it.”
During the next school year, the student said her grades plunged, and she had a hard time focusing on classes.
“I had to take two incompletes in the fall and it just felt like I was crying all the time. Everything felt like a blur and I felt dirty, small and numb,” she said. “I felt like a zombie.”
The student did not report the incident.
“The person that did it never had repercussions for her actions,” she said. In the past year, her grades have improved and she is starting to heal. She said she wants to tell her story because too often sexual assault within the LGBT community goes unnoticed.
“For me, it almost felt like there was an extra additional component of shame,” she said. “Logically, I know it is not my fault. I know what happened was sexual assault, but I still do struggle with feelings of guilt and being dirty. I want people to know that the culture and beliefs we have about sexual assault in this country are not healthy. Thinking people would have found a way to stop it if they didn’t want it is victim-blaming, and it is as ridiculous as telling a victim of a robbery that they would have stopped a robbery if they really didn’t want it to happen.”

Female student, University of Michigan

U.S. Department of Justice, Office of Justice Programs, National Institute of Justice. (2005). Sexual Assault on Campus: What Colleges and Universities Are Doing About It.
In 1999, Congress asked the National Institute of Justice to study school compliance with Federal laws requiring schools to disclose their security procedures, report crime data, and ensure victims’ rights. The resulting research report provides a comprehensive benchmark of sexual assault policy on the Nation’s campuses. This report presents key findings from the research.

Fisher, B.S., Cullen, F.T., & Turner, M.G. (2000). The Sexual Victimization of College Women. National Institute of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics.
Findings from this report include:

• It is estimated that the percentage of completed or attempted rape victimization among women in higher educational institutions may be between 20% and 25% over the course of a college career.
• Among college women, 9 in 10 victims of rape and sexual assault knew their offender.
• Almost 12.8% of completed rapes, 35% of attempted rapes, and 22.9% of threatened rapes happened during a date.
• 2.8% experienced either a completed rape (1.7%) or an attempted rape (1.1%) during the six-month period in which the study was conducted.  Of victims, 22.8% were victims of multiple rapes. If this data is calculated for a calendar year period, nearly 5% of college women are victimized during any given calendar year.
• It is estimated that for every 1,000 women attending a college or university, there are 35 incidents of rape each academic year.
• Off-campus sexual victimization is much more common among college women than on-campus victimization.  Of victims of completed rape 33.7% were victimized on campus and 66.3% off campus.
• Less than 5% of completed or attempted rapes against college women were reported to law enforcement.  However, in 2/3rds of the incidents the victim did tell another person, usually a friend, not family or school officials.

Krebs, C.P., Lindquist, C.H., Warner, T.D., Fisher, B.S., & Martin, S.L. (2007). The Campus Sexual Assault (CSA) Study. National Institute of Justice.
 Findings from this report include:

• Many women (88%) have never consumed a drink left unattended or consumed a drink given to them by a stranger (76%).
• One-quarter of the sample (25%) reported consuming alcohol or drugs before sex at least once a month, and slightly fewer (23%) were drunk or high during sex at least once a month.
• Eighteen percent experienced an attempted (13%) and/or completed (13%) sexual assault since entering college.
• Among the total sample, 5% experienced a completed physically forced sexual assault, but a much higher percentage (11%) experienced a completed incapacitated sexual assault.
• Sexual assaults were most likely to occur in September, October and November, on Friday or Saturday nights, and between the hours of midnight and 6:00 a.m.
• Most victims of physically forced or incapacitated sexual assault were assaulted by someone they knew (79% and 88%).
• Freshmen and sophomores are at greater risk for victimization than juniors and seniors.

Mohler-Kuo, M., Dowdall, G., Koss, M., & Wechsler, H. (2004). Correlates of Rape While Intoxicated in a National Sample of College Women. Journal of Studies on Alcohol, 65, 37-45.

Findings from this report include:

• In one study, one in 20 (4.7%) women reported being raped in college since the beginning of the year – a period of approximately 7 months – and nearly three quarters of those rapes (72%) happened with the victims were so intoxicated they were unable to consent or refuse.
• One study found that students living in sorority houses (3 times at risk) and on-campus dormitories (1.4 times at risk) were more likely to be raped than students living off-campus.
• Women from colleges with medium and high binge-drinking rates had more than a 1.5-fold increased chance of being raped while intoxicated than those from schools with low binge-drinking rates.
• Women who had practiced binge-drinking in high school had an increased likelihood of rape while intoxicated.

Chapter 4

Pop singer Lady Gaga said in an interview on "The Howard Stern Show" that she was raped by a musical producer, an experience she turned into a song entitled "Swine," the U.S. press reported Wednesday.
The artist told the radio host that she was a very "naive" young woman educated in "a Catholic school" who, when she began to try and forge a career in the music business, encountered a man 20 years her senior who abused her.
"I went through some horrific things," said the 28yearold controversial singer, whose real name is Stefani Joanne Angelina Germanotta.
The performer of "Monster" said that for "four or five years" she erased the incident from her mind, but then had to go through quite a lot of "mental, physical and emotional therapy" to overcome what had happened to her.
"I'm able to laugh now" because of that therapy, she said, adding that she never confronted her attacker after the incident, although "I saw him one time in a store, and I was paralyzed by fear."