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How do some people seem to get a gargantuan amount of things accomplished…while some of us struggle to just get through the day?
How can you learn from the masters and apply what they know? First, you have to recognize these two truths.
TRUTH #1: We all have the same amount of time. Productive people do things differently.
TRUTH #2: Learning how to stop procrastinating isn’t about super-secret tactics or fancy apps. It’s about mindset and simple, but powerful, shifts in how approach your to-dos.
Today, I want to give you a sample from my Finisher’s Formula course. These are 3 action steps you can use to stop procrastinating and feeling lazy…and start following through and being more productive instead.

3 action steps you can use to stop procrastinating

• Step 1: Watch what you say
• Step 2: Stop blaming time
• Step 3: Break a big “to-do” into tiny habits

Step 1: Watch what you say

We’re all highly affected by the words we use (even if we aren’t fully aware of what we’re saying).
For example, how many of us have said something like this recently…

• “I really need to get my act together”
• “I should stop being so lazy”
• “I know I’m smart, I just don’t apply myself”

The words we use are powerful. There’s a subtle — but important — difference between asking “why do I always procrastinate?” and “why am I procrastinating on this task?”
In the first, procrastination becomes part of your “self-talk” and, eventually, who you are. (This is what I call an “invisible script” — and I talk in more detail about invisible scripts here.)
Even though our beliefs may be too deeply embedded to completely change overnight, we CAN start to gradually reprogram them by simply paying attention to and changing the words we use — by using a more positive “self-talk.”
If you’ve ever heard that standing up straighter makes you feel more confident over time (it’s true), this works the same way. Changing our language can gradually change how we feel about ourselves and our goals. The language we use really does matter.
ACTION STEP: For 1 week, try to catch yourself whenever you use negative language like the above examples. Then, instead of beating yourself up, think of a small tweak you could use so your negative language becomes neutral or positive.
Here are a few examples to help get you started…

• Instead of “I’m so lazy”, try “I’m human. Everyone struggles sometimes”
• Instead of “I’m going to fail”, try “I’ll be fine. Even if the worst case scenario happened and I do fail, I’ll be OK”
• Instead of “I should do x”, try “I’m going to start small and do x on Tuesday at 2 pm”

Step 2: Stop blaming time

It’s easy to use time as an excuse for procrastination. How many times this month have your friends (or even you!) said something like…

• “Sorry, something came up. I’ll catch you next time”
• “I don’t know if I can do that. I’m just so swamped at work, you know?”
• “I’m too busy to do that right now. I’ll get to it later.”

We all have the same 24 hours in a day — CEOs, politicians, Ph.D candidates, mothers of 2…everyone.
It’s OK to recognize when “no time” is actually a blanket excuse for not doing something you don’t want to do. To figure out if that’s the case — and to get that time back — follow “Ramit’s Rules of Letting Go.”

Let go of “should do’s” that you actually don’t care about

Ask yourself, in the scheme of all the things you want to try, do you really care about this? When I went to my cousin’s wedding in India a few years ago, I saw one of my friends order his food in fluent Hindi, and I thought, “Hmmmm…I should take Hindi lessons.” But when I got back to NYC, I put it on my to-do list, only to skip over it for MONTHS.
The truth is, I really didn’t care enough to try and learn Hindi. It wasn’t important enough. When I acknowledged I wasn’t going to do it and crossed it off my list, it freed me up to focus on doing the things that I really wanted to do.

Let go of waiting for inspiration to strike

Inspiration is for amateurs. I wake up every morning, rain or shine, feeling great or awful, and I get to work. Not because I’m a machine, or a better person than anyone, but because I have systems that I depend on.
Willpower and inspiration fade quickly — for example, have you ever been SUPER EXCITED TO START SOMETHING…only to feel unmotivated 2 weeks later? But systems last.
A system doesn’t have to be a complex monstrosity that takes you 16 years and 4 Ph.Ds to decipher either.
For example, here are some systems I use:

• I set reminders in Google Calendar for small tasks, like sorting a box of papers in my apartment or calling my Mom (BONUS: Here’s my exact calendar system.)
• In college, I created a scholarship system to apply to 60+ scholarships and pay my way through undergrad and grad school at Stanford
• I keep my workout clothes in the same spot every day (right next to my bed), so I never have an excuse to miss the gym.

Depending on a “mood” or “inspiration” is what unprofitable life coaches do. Waiting for inspiration to strike is a quick way to randomly pursue something, then give up, only to yo-yo back a couple weeks later, eventually leading you to hate yourself.
Start with a small system — like my calendar system above — and you’ll spend more time focusing on what MATTERS and less time procrastinating on things that don’t.

Let go of feeling guilty

With so many things we could do — and so much pressure from everyone around us — it’s no wonder we feel guilty.
Think about the last time you felt like you should do something. Maybe it was a new language you thought would be “good to know.” Or, maybe you wanted to try a new sport because a friend told you to do it.
It’s easy to say “yeah, I should do that”…only to never get around to it and feel TERRIBLE.
Life is short. Nobody is making you feel guilty except YOU. We realistically have time to learn maybe three new major things per year. Make sure you want this thing to be one of them.
Today, I want to show you a video from one of my premium courses about defeating guilt and enjoying the things that make you happy. We’re constantly told what we SHOULD do, so it’s important to reward ourselves when we work hard and earn something.

ACTION STEP: The next time someone offers you an invitation, instead of saying “I don’t have time” be honest with them and yourself. You can even use this exact script: “That sounds really interesting, but I’m going to pass so I can focus on a couple other things I really want to do.”
This will:

1. Make others value your time and commitments
2. Force you to be honest with yourself about what’s important
3. Free up your mental energy to worry about things you actually care about

Step 3: Break a big “to-do” into tiny habits

Part of the reason we procrastinate is that we’re just overwhelmed with how much we have to do. Where do we start?!
One of my mentors, BJ Fogg (check out an interview I did with him on how to stop being lazy) has a program called Tiny Habits.
We’re motivated by the little wins — but demotivated by failures. Once you know this, you can design your goals to boost your confidence and start building momentum. When you’re starting out, it’s better to successfully walk one mile than to fail to run three miles.
What tiny habits can you start building today?

• Do two pushups a day
• Floss one tooth a day to get started
• Drink one glass of water a day before you go to bed

And you can ramp up from there.
ACTION STEP: Think of one of your “big goals” (getting fit, learning a new language, organizing your house) and break it down to the TINIEST habit you can. And I mean tiny: 2 push ups per day, 1 new word a day, pick up one paper per day…however small you need to get started.
Do this habit for 2 weeks and then you can consider expanding.

If you want to witness the magic of the human brain in action, play the matching game with a 4-year-old — you know, the classic game where the tiles are arranged face down and players take turns flipping them over to find pairs.
You'll see what I mean as you watch that wonderful little brain doing its thing. It's amazing, and when you realize you've been outdueled in a brain game by a child, it's just a bit humbling.
Obviously, young children develop, learn, and change very quickly. They show drastic improvement in academic, physical, and social skills all the time. One day they can't, and literally the next day they can. Does it make you a little bit jealous? Imagine what you could accomplish with that amazing ability.
Well, there is hope for us adults. We've known for quite a while that IQ can be increased, that you're not just stuck with what you're born with. Andrea Kuszewski explains that fluid intelligence, which refers to the capacity to learn new things, retains that information, uses it to solve new problems, and can be strengthened over time. She suggests that if one implements five elements into life every day, or at least as much as possible, cognitive capacity can be increased. Those elements are to seek novelty, challenge yourself, think creatively, do things the hard way, and network.

life what is it to have a life? we often say or hear people say that you don't have a life or get a life.. but what does having a life really mean? well the answer is is simple whatever we to daily is own life it doesn't matter if we don;t have much of a friends group or we just have a 24/7 job or we we are clean freaks or all we do is surf on the internet all day or just do gossips all the time maybe we do alot of artwork or maybe we just fight all the time or maybe we go party all night or maybe we do nothing at all we just sit around and chatter or just maybe we are living our life finding the true love or we are living our lives in the arms of the person we love the most so I think that there is no such thing as "not having a life" people just phrase it because in their point of view we don't have a life but the fact is that we all have a life .. A life in which all live in everyday..

1. Humans Can Lick, Too

This legend has been around as long as canines and kids. A 9-year-old girl cuddles in her bed with her pooch as her parents leave for a night out. They assure her she’ll be safe with her trusty dog.  As they leave, her dog licks her hand and settles into his spot beneath her bed. Later, the drip, drip, drip of what sounds like the bathroom faucet rouses the girl from her dreams. Reaching down, she feels the comforting swish of her pooch’s tongue and drifts back to sleep.
The same rhythmic dripping wakes her again. She wishes her daddy was there to fix the faucet, but her parents won’t be home for a while. Again, she lowers her hand and feels the tickling lick from her best friend below.
Hours later, the incessant dripping rouses her from a deep slumber. Drip, drip, drip. The sound grows louder with each step she takes to the bathroom. The scuffling behind her is surely her doggy.
She flips on the light switch and is horrified to see a form hanging in the shower. She calls for her dog, the dripping sound pulsing in her eardrums.
But there is no response. Her dog, now skinned and tethered to the shower curtain by his neck, is bleeding out onto the shower floor.
The girl slips on the bloodied tile and sees a message written in her dog’s blood on the mirror, “Humans can lick, too.” She runs to her room, straight into a dark figure holding a bloody knife.
2. A Real Deadbeat Boyfriend

This scary legend begins on a windy summer night with a teen couple searching for a secluded place to “talk.” They drive to a park area and stop at a popular spot beneath an oak tree. They begin kissing, but suddenly the girl pushes the boy away. “Shhh. Did you hear that?” she whispers.
“Hear what?” he asks, slipping his arm back around her waist.
“It’s a creepy, grunting kind of noise,” she insists. “Listen. Hear it?!”
“Maybe it’s a massive mouse,” he says with a grin.
“Maybe you’re a massive moron. I want to get out of here. I’m scared.”
He tells her he’ll check it out. She locks the doors behind him and he disappears into the blackness of the woods.
Moments later: Squeak! Squeak! Thunk. She opens her door, yelling for her boyfriend. Squeak, squeak. Following the sound, she sees her boyfriend’s sneaker atop car. She looks up and sees his mangled torso, dangling from the oak tree, swinging in tempo with the summer wind.
Whimpering, she dives inside the car and locks the doors. Stretching to reach the car keys, she realizes they’re no longer there. Jingle. Jingle. As she searches the darkness for the sound, she sees a pair of eyes staring back at her.
The eyes belong to a grinning man, standing on the hood and holding a bloody knife in one hand while jingling the car keys in the other.
3. Bloody Mary

Years ago this beloved scary urban legend featured young ladies who’d navigate a set of stairs backwards, a lit candle in one hand, and a hand mirror in the other. The scary legend dictates that when they then peered into the mirror they would see their future husband’s face — or the Grim Reaper, meaning they would never live long enough to be betrothed.
Nowadays, a person stares at their mirrored image and calls Bloody Mary repeatedly – thirteen times. Some do this while spinning. Some taunt: “Bloody Mary, I’ve got your Baby.” (A reference to Queen Mary I who endured multiple failed pregnancies.)
The incantations invoke an appearance by Bloody Mary (bathed in blood) seen as a ghost, witch, or corpse. She curses them and may even clasp her crimson hands around their neck and drink the caller’s blood.
4. Babysitter and the Man Upstairs (and/or Will You Stop Clowning Around?)

Countless movies have been based upon this scary urban legend of the babysitter and the man upstairs. A teenage girl babysitter receives repeated phone calls from a stranger who whispers: “Have you checked the children?” and then hangs up. After the fifth or sixth call she frantically calls the police. They instruct her to keep the caller on the line so they can trace the call (way before Caller I.D.). She does, and when the stranger hangs up, the police call to tell her the caller is in the house with her.
The girl runs to check on the children only to discover them bludgeoned to death and the caller/killer holding an ax, waiting for her.
A variation of this story: The girl has the children snuggled in bed, but can’t stand the life-size clown mannequin in the family’s living room. She calls the parents to ask if she can cover it up because he’s scary, only to have them inform her that they don’t have a life-size clown mannequin!
5. Killer in the Back Seat

Driving home on a deserted freeway late at night, a woman spots a pair of headlights in her rear view mirror, closing in on her. She slows down, hoping the car will pass her. It doesn’t. She turns off the freeway, but so does the car behind her, its bright lights flashing continuously. She squeals into her driveway and races up the sidewalk. The driver of the other car pops out of his vehicle, screaming for her to get in the house and lock the door!
Minutes later, the cops arrive and she sees the man that had been following her, now in pieces on her lawn.
The police tell her that he called them, saying that he saw a man in her car’s backseat, wielding a butcher knife. Every time he flashed his brights and got closer, the man would cower back down.
The man with the butcher knife was never found.

the language of love ..  It is quite beautiful, unique and brilliant .. well this language is something we all know we don't actually need to learn it or take extra classes for it is just natural .. when two people love each other they can hear feel each others happiness or sadness from hundreds and thousands of miles away
they dont need to actually talk it's like they have telepathy they we understand everything of each other just perfectly

today at 11am a resident of karachi a 4 year old toodler was kidnapped by his driver from his school. the driver was suppose to bring back other kids to home also but he didn't so after few hours when no kid came back home they sent another driver to pick the kids up only then it was realized that the 4 year was missing talking to the police the father of the child said that 2 days ago he had scolded the driver for taking new routes to places and had slapped him  .. then later the other driver told the police that he had said that he will make the man pay for slapping him.
the police had checked his home where they saw the water tap was still running the fan was still on there was plates with food it seem like they all left in a hurry.. now the police has found the vehicle  that he took it was found abandoned on a roadway of punjab ..
Apparently he is taken the boy to punjab but the police has yet not found him..

When Erika Jones was pregnant with her daughter Abigail, she and her husband Stephen were told not only that Abigail had Down syndrome but that she had a fatal tumor in her brain as well, AOL reports. After preemptively planning Abigail's funeral, the Jones's are now celebrating every day after a surgeon in Boston pulled off a miraculous surgery that left their baby tumor-free.
When Abigail, now 2 months old, was born, "she ate. She gained weight and she looked great," Erika told WCVB. "She was thriving. She was certainly not in any way, shape or form dying." The Jacksonville, Florida, family went to Boston Children's Hospital for a second opinion on their daughter's tumor.
Neurosurgeon-in-Chief Dr. Alan Cohen explained sometimes tumors like Abigail's look malignant but aren't: "We thought there wasn't enough evidence to give her a death sentence." Last Thursday, Cohen was able to remove entire (ultimately benign!) brain tumor. Just three days after the surgery, Abigail was allowed to go home.
"It was almost like she was born again," Erika said. The family has been chronicling Abigail's recovery process on Facebook, constantly thanking Dr. Cohen and everyone who has supported them over the past few months.